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Capturing a Short Life Documetary Film Trailer

Posted on 30 November 2009 by hanamipapa

Capturing a Short Life is a beautiful documentary about families dealing with infant loss and how important it is to remember and celebrate all of the tiny lives lost so soon.

Originally airing in December 2008 in Canada, Capturing a Short Life is powerfully moving. Shows people who haven’t experienced a child loss why it is important to for us to remember and talk about our children. One father said it best in the trailer “we love to talk about her because she was a person.”

Having known first-hand the pain of losing a child so young, we started Hanami Prints to provide bereaved parents and families the smallest of comforts through meaningful and personal keepsakes. We understand how important it is to remember and know of few places to find quality and thoughtful items to mark our childrens’ short lives.

What did you think of the trailer? Did you watch the documentary? How was it received friends, family and the media?

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Grief Support After the Death of a Child: The Compassionate Friends

Posted on 25 November 2009 by hanamipapa

The Compassionate Friends is a support group dedicated to help families following the death of a child of any age. Incorporated in 1978, The Compassionate friends began with a chaplain, Simon Stephens, and a set of grieving parents at a hospital in Warwhickshire, England. Chaplain Stephens realized that the support these grieving parents gave to each other was better than anything he could have provided.

Mission
The mission of The Compassionate Friends is to assist families toward the positive resolution of grief following the death of a child of any age and to provide information to help others be supportive…

With more than 600 meeting locations around the country, The Compassionate Friends deliver in building an emotional support group of grieving families whom all share in dealing with the devastating loss of a child. Meetings are not moderated by therapists but instead bereaved parents, siblings and grandparents in all stages of the grieving process.

I first heard about The Compassionate Friends through an old schoolmate who lost her son a few days after giving birth to him six years ago. To date, she is still very active in her local chapter assisting in fundraisers and community events. What I was most impressed by was that shortly after her son passed, she was taken to a meeting being held within the same hospital and was immediately embraced both physically and spiritually–the group sobbed together and let her know she was not alone. Crying together, my friend told me that she was so thankful that there was a group of people out there to help her walk the difficult path of grieving her son.

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Couple who lost six babies in five years in seventh heaven as healthy ‘little angel’ is born | Mail Online

Posted on 23 November 2009 by hanamipapa

“A couple who suffered the devastating loss of six unborn babies in five years are celebrating after the safe arrival of their daughter Amy.

Julie and Phil Turnock had almost given up on their dream of having a child after having six miscarriages, including one baby that had to be delivered at 21 weeks.

But they decided to have a final attempt and are now planning their first Christmas with their new addition, who was born after a smooth labour weighing in at a healthy 7lb 10oz.

‘She’s a miracle baby and we are going to have a wonderful time over the festive season,’ said Julie, 36, as she nursed seven-week-old Amy at the family home in Matlock Bath, Derbyshire.

‘When we look at Amy it sometimes seems like a dreams and that she is not our little girl.

‘All the way through the pregnancy, although I tried to remain upbeat I couldn’t help thinking it wasn’t going to happen and that I would miscarry again.

‘Even when we’d got through major milestones, and when I went beyond 14 weeks which was around the time I lost my other babies, I still didn’t believe I would be a mother…’ ”

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As a parent who has suffered the loss of one full term stillborn son and a miscarriage, I can’t even imagine nor think I could muster the strength to endure what these parents in Derbyshire have. The loss of two children has taken a tremendous toll on me mentally, physically and spiritually–let alone six babies in five years.

    Questions:

  • Where do you find the strength to to try again after suffering a loss?
  • If you decided to try again what would keep you going?
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Charcoal Portrait Giveaway Winner Announced

Posted on 20 November 2009 by hanamipapa

TGIF! Monday we announced a charcoal portrait giveaway and the time has come to announce the lucky winner.

Drum roll please….

…and the winner is Donna!

We would like to thank all of our readers for participating and for making our relaunch such a big success. I am truly humbled by the number of people who participated–the feedback we received was wonderful.

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Subsequent Pregnancy After a Loss Support (SPALS)

Posted on 18 November 2009 by hanamipapa

Subsequent Pregnancy After a Loss Support (SPALS) is a closed email-based, community support group that has given thousands of grieving parents a safe and compassionate forum to connect and share experiences with others who know the depths of grieving a child and the fears associated with subsequent pregnancy. Whether you have experienced “the loss of a child due to miscarriage, selective termination, stillbirth, neonatal death, sudden infant death, or accidental death,” SPALS offers an extremely active and supportive community to those currently pregnant, trying to become pregnant, or contemplating trying again after loss.

How active and supportive?

Very! Within moments of my wife posting her first email to the group there was an outpouring of support from members all over the world letting her know that we were not alone. It has been over three years since that first email and I can tell you the momentum and strength of the group hasn’t slowed a bit.

Shortly after the passing of her first child, due to severe preeclampsia and HELLP Syndrome, Sarah Grimes Founded SPALS in December 1995. Sarah is still very much a part of SPALS and is one of two list administrators.

Sarah shares her experience “The Life and Death of Haven, our Beloved Daughter.”

Conclusion

SPALS is a wonderful support group that has been a tremendous resource. Its members have helped us through some of the darkest times. There are many support groups out there, but SPALS offers an atmosphere of intimacy and privacy that is very comforting and reassuring.

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Do you have a story to share about SPALS? What would you tell our readers looking to join a support group? What support groups have you found most helpful?

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Number of stillbirths a ‘national tragedy’, says charity – Times Online

Posted on 18 November 2009 by hanamipapa

Here is a story I found today about an organization called Sands based in the UK who is calling on Scotland’s Government to ensure that stillbirths and neonatal deaths are recognized as a “major health issue and addressed as a matter of urgency and priority.”

Pressure on understaffed neonatal and maternity units and a lack of funding for research into stillbirth is contributing to the avoidable deaths of almost 500 babies a year, according to researchers.

In a report to be presented to the Scottish Parliament today, Sands, the stillbirth and neonatal death charity, claims that the lives of many babies could be saved by improved services and increased funding for research.

The charity says that despite the figure of 325 babies stillborn in Scotland in 2008 — one of the highest per capita in Europe — there is currently no research into understanding stillbirth issues underway, a situation that it described as a “national tragedy”.

The number of babies stillborn in Scotland is equal to four times the overall deaths from MRSA, twice the number of adults who are killed in car accidents and ten times the number of cot deaths.

Sands has called on the Scottish government to ensure that stillbirths and neonatal deaths are recognised as a major health issue and addressed as a matter of urgency and priority.

Neal Long, chief executive of Sands, said: “Almost 500 babies dying every year in Scotland is a national tragedy. For too long these deaths have been ignored and yet here is compelling evidence to suggest that many babies’ lives could be saved with improved delivery of maternity services and increased funding for research.”

The report, Saving Babies’ Lives, reveals that Scotland has one of the highest perinatal mortality rates in Europe — that is, babies who are stillborn or die within the first seven days of life. Mortality is highest in urban areas with the worst social deprivation and poorest general health indicators.

The stillbirth rate is 1 in every 200 babies born in Scotland, a figure which has not changed significantly since the 1980s.

Over half of all stillbirths are unexplained, the majority of unexplained deaths occurring in low-risk pregnancies. The campaigners want midwifery and obstetric training to focus more attention on the possibility that things can go wrong in pregnancy and how to recognise signs of risk and minimise those risks.

The report provides evidence that although per capita funding of maternity services in Scotland is comparably better than for England and Wales, there are still staffing pressures in maternity units and antenatal clinics.

“There is increasing evidence that many deaths related to events in labour are potentially avoidable,” it states. “Quality Improvement Scotland’s recent audit of intrapartum deaths (babies dying during labour) revealed alarming failures of care: in 44 per cent of cases where the baby died there was evidence of ‘major sub-optimal care’, which may have contributed to the death.”

Of the 53,000 babies born in Scotland every year, around 8,000 — one in seven — are admitted to neonatal units. Scotland’s premature birth rate is higher than in England and Wales and is increasing. Yet while the pressure on units is increasing, Scottish neonatal units continue to be understaffed and overstretched resulting in unnecessary transfers of babies and the closure of units to new admissions.

Babies in Scotland, the report claims, are not guaranteed one-to-one nursing care in intensive care units and says Health Boards must commit to a long-term recruitment and training strategy for the whole neonatal workforce to achieve minimum standards of care for babies.

There is also failure to accurately identify and understand risk factors for stillbirth, which include obesity, smoking, social deprivation, teenage pregnancies and older mothers. All these factors are high and rising in Scotland.

Gillian Smith, of the Royal College of Midwives, said: “The RCM in Scotland welcomes this report and recognises that more work and research has to be carried out around the loss of these babies.

“We share concerns around the reorganisation of maternity services and would support Sands in their request to make sure that during these reorganisations we do not lose the valuable input not just from midwives who specialise in providing support to parents and families at this time but also for onsite facilities which help families come together and start the grieving process.”

Case study

Not once, but twice Marion Currie has experienced the devastation of losing a baby at an advanced stage of pregnancy. Her daughter, Lesley, was stillborn in 2002, and her son, John, in 2006.

Both pregnancies had apparently been proceeeding quite normally and she had no reason to worry. With better knowledge, she believes, it might have been possible to anticipate problems and her babies might have lived.

“With my son, it was believed to be placenta failure. With my daughter, the cause was unknown, but perhaps in both instances if simple tests had been available, and there was more knowledge, it might have been different, it’s difficult to say,” said Ms Currie, 47, from Musselburgh, who edits a newsletter for the charity Sands. She has two other healthy children aged 14 and 4.

“If you could just identify which pregnancies are high risk, but appear to be low risk, then I’m sure babies’ lives could be saved. We need more research.

“There is an expression that says a new mother is born with every child. When the child is born, the mother is born. When the child is lost, that mother is left. I have two living children but I am very much aware that two children are missing from my life.

“No children are interchangeable or replaceable and every child is an individual. There are Lesley and John-shaped holes that will never be filled. And of course life goes on, you have to care and nurture your living children, but the holes remain. ”

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The Gravity of Infant Loss

Posted on 17 November 2009 by hanamipapa

“Pictures from a cemetery, featuring the headstones of over 50 little angels. A tribute to all children who are gone too soon, and especially to my boys, Jacob and Zachary.”

This is a beautiful tribute created by foreverloves74. The photography is fantastic and has inspired me to go out and take some of my own photographs. I love the different perspectives and how the story is told. If you enjoyed this video I invite you to visit foreverloves74 YouTube profile and leave a comment.

Are there any videos you would like to share or recommend? Feel free to leave them below.

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Comment and Win a Charcoal Portrait

Posted on 16 November 2009 by hanamipapa

Charcoal Portrait of Nicolas by Jason Marti

Charcoal Portrait of Nicolas by Jason Marti

In keeping with the spirit of our “Grand Reopening,” we will be giving one lucky reader a hand drawn charcoal portrait created by our very own artist, Jason Marti.

The winner’s portrait will be hand-drawn in charcoal pencil, allowing for subtle shading and gradations. Jason’s artwork is created using acid-free archival materials with an invisible protective coating that minimizes smudging and fading over time. The portrait will be approximately 8”x10” in size, allowing you to mat and frame the artwork yourself or take it to a professional framer.

Jason normally sells his 8″x10″ charcoal portraits for $130US for a single subject, but offers Hanami Prints‘ customers a 50% discount. This is your chance to win one of these beautiful portraits–just in time for the holidays.

Rules

The rules are simple–leave a comment below and let us know what you think about the site. Submit your comment before midnight Thursday November 19, 2009. The winner will be announced the next morning Friday November 20, 2009.

Charcoal Portrait by Jason MartiCharcoal Memorial Portrait by Jason MartiMemorial Portrait by Jason Marti

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It’s Here! Hanami Prints Blog Redesign

Posted on 15 November 2009 by hanamipapa

Today I am proud to announce the redesign of Hanami Prints’ Blog: Learning to Live Without Our Children. For months we have been struggling with how to approach the redesign and what would be the best way to gather and distribute all of the helpful information and resources scattered across the Web.

Our goal is to provide grieving parents and family members, honoring the lives of their children, a safe place to share information, news and musings on miscarriage, stillbirth, and infant and child loss. Not much has changed in our philosophy but our approach is much different.

So what has changed?

The biggest change and one I am most proud of is in the look and function of the blog. As a traditional and digital artist the first design bothered me due to the lack of visual interest and organization. So this time around I decided to be creative and design all of my own elements and use a theme created by a great company called WooThemes–I highly recommend this company if you are looking to redesign your WordPress blog and don’t want to get your hands dirty with all of the programming.

The next big change is in the information we will be offering and how it is presented. There are a lot of websites and blogs out there that offer helpful information to our community, but many of them are difficult to navigate or hard to find. We will search the web and bring the information straight to you.

If there are any subjects that you would like to see or think that may be helpful, please feel free to share them with the community or email us.

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    I invite you to join us in building and sharing our community through social media websites:

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  • Conclusion

    We are so excited to share our new site with all of you and hope that you find Hanami Prints a valuable resource and a welcoming place to share your experiences with an understanding community.

    We would love to hear your thoughts about the new design!

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